When you are in a long term relationship sometimes you need some help keeping things fresh. As always sex is a personal preference. You'll need to find not only works for you and your partner but what works for the relationship. It's important that when you are struggling to communicate with your partner because you aren't in this alone it is a relationship.

Re-Fresh on Intimacy

Sex is not always part of intimacy but it can be you get to choose if it progresses into sex. Spending time together is a great way to boost intimacy got on dates and take turns on planning the dates so the pressure is not always on one partner. Massages that do not guarantee a happy ending are a great way to build intimacy. Take note of what areas rubbed produced a positive reaction, do any produce a negative reaction.  Make outs can be an incredible way to bring back a spark. They where fun in high school so why wouldn't they be now? If you aren't quite ready for sex mutual masturbation can be a great way to freshen things up ( look forward to a post on this soon).

Outside of the Bedroom

Just like when you've been stuck inside (thanks quarantine) you need to step outside and take a breath of fresh air. Not as easily said and done in terms of sex but here are some ideas! Go to a sex shop. Once you have talked with a partner about some things that you may want to try or intrigue you go to a local sex store. Nowadays, not all sex shops are seedy great ones like She Bop and Good Vibrations changing the game being more female-friendly and focused! You could even go with a friend or alone and pick up a surprise for the other. If you are both comfortable go to a strip club together or read books about sex and watch porn together.As far as non-sexual intimacy goes we will talk about that later on as well but simple things such as setting aside time with no electronics just enjoying sharing space with your partner is a great way to build that intimacy! Until then stay healthy, say positive, and don't be an asshole!