You Can Cum if You Want To
Let's talk orgasms! First, off they don't have to happen to have a good time. Secondly, this can look different every time and with every person. I feel like society puts so much pressure on "getting off". However, that's not everyone's goal or desire. Personally much like everything, it's what you want. There are a million reasons that may affect someone's ability to orgasm. Things like stress, depression, anxiety, diet, and so many others can affect your libido or ability to orgasm. So let's talk about it!
It's Okay Not To Cum
Cumming does not need to be how we know that sex is done. Often partners can't sync up on cumming together so if an orgasm is when sex is done then one partner could miss out. You can also be satisfied and not cum, and some people can cum more than once. The most important thing is that you communicate with your partner(s) and either ask for what you need or set a boundary, From people who don't like coming with a partner or can only cum with one it is all okay as long as everything is consensual. Being able to talk to your partner is super important. Just because you or they can't/ aren't cumming doesn't mean you don't enjoy it or aren't satisfied.
Strive for Satisfaction
My number one tip for clients and customers at work is to go until you and your partner(s) are satisfied! Communicating whether you want to orgasm or don't particularly care if it happens will help before you get to that point. Some days you may just want to care for your partner(s) and don't want to focus on yourself. Maybe physically you're unable to but still want to try. Since sex and orgasms can have so many benefits to your everyday life it is important to communicate your needs be it to yourself or a partner. Just remember sex is more than penetration and orgasms. Plus if you can cum more than once why stop when you are just getting started. Orgasms can be such a beautiful thing but it doesn't have to be everything. If you never have experienced issues I am so happy for you but there are so many who do and need to know it's okay if you can't or don't want to cum every time you have sex with partners and even yourself. If you would like a post on communication tips let me know! Games can be a great way to bring some fun into it and can help you communicate and even help you find something new you like. It may take a while for this to feel normal but so does everything we are trying for the first time. Until next time stay healthy, stay positive, and don't be an asshole!