Beyond Penetration: Sensual Play and Intimacy

Most porn focuses on one main thing, penetration. However, with couples, this is often not always or even ever going to be the focus. Often forgotten is the sensual side of pleasure. Let's start off with a few of the most well-known ways.  We will work towards some of the more kink like ways to bring back sensual intimacy. Again these are all things that you and your partner(s) should talk about what you want to try and your comfort levels. Maybe all of them work may be only a few or none but regardless that's okay. Sex should be something that you enjoy with a partner, there is no right or wrong way.

Sensual Basics

To start off adventuring think of the 5 senses that we have, sight, taste, smell, touch, and sound. What happens if you take one or more of these away? The others are typically heightened in their place.  So maybe start off with a blindfolded massage. For this, you could use something as simple as a scarf or tie if you don't have a sleep mask or blindfold already. Next is picking products first make sure that it's not something you are allergic to. Quite a few brands use sweet almond oil or coconut oil so make sure to read the ingredients. Massage candles are a nice way to add a warming sensation without added ingredients! Once everyone is relaxed and in a good spot let's talk about other ways to sensually adventure with you and your partner(s). You can also take away sound by using headphones to only play a soundtrack that's been hand-picked. Feathers are a great way to add a different texture. Have a soft blanket or silky sheets as a base. Things you already have can work really well to spice things up.

Let's Get Spicy

So we've talked about taking away sight and sound already which some may find kinky. Now taking it further let's talk about floggers and sensation wheels. Sensation wheels are a great way to higher-touch by bringing blood to the surface. Wheels can come in many different styles with the sharpness of the spokes and single to multiple wheels, some close together with others far apart. Pressure can change this from sensual play towards BDSM and if that's for your great just make sure to talk with your partner(s). Floggers are going to be more along the lines of kink and BDSM. There are quite a few different styles but one that is soft such as leather or velvet is great for sensual play. With a soft flogger, you can drag it across the skin gently or gentle hits with it to draw blood to the surface than a gentle drag. There are so many things that can bring back the sensual and intimate side of your relationship(s). Just make sure you talk about it with your partner as well. Soon I will post a blog or video of tips on how to communicate with your partner. Until then stay healthy, stay positive, and don't be an asshole!