My Tubal Journey

Meg sticking her tongue out with a birth control tablet on it.

Five years of fighting came to a close in May of 2021. I got my tubes removed. This was not an easy fight by any means. Talking with and being rejected by over 100 doctors who told me no or that I would change my mind was disheartening. Only after 2 failed IUD’s and a cyst rupturing possibly comprising my ovary did I find a doctor who listened to me. I still had to go threw trying another birth control option before I could have the surgery. I got a tubal ligation and an ablation. Advocating for yourself and bodily autonomy in the US is a hard and exhausting process. Now that we have covered the process to get my tubal let’s talk about the process and recovery.

Starting with pre-op I met with the doctor to sign papers and get blood work appointments set up. Once I was cleared to get the surgery I set up the date and got all my instructions. To prepare I made sure to get everything that I would need for recovery. The night prior to surgery I got everything set and ready for the morning and took my last birth control pill after 10 years of being on it. Morning of I showered and took out all my piercings. Due to covid I wasn’t able to have anyone with me but was able to video call till I went back for surgery. I won’t lie I was anxious but able to find comfort in a long battle ending.

Meg ready in a hospital gown, hair net and mask for surgery.

The surgery was successful and went smoothly. I was a little groggy but was able to leave shortly after. I was sore which I was prepared for but my right shoulder was killing me. This is due to the gas they use to create more space for laparoscopic surgeries. During the first few days, I slept a lot like most of the day. After the first few days, my shoulder pain was going away and I was starting to feel better. Once I was feeling better I overestimated how much energy I was going to have. This meant I had to be really intentional with the bit of energy I did have. It took about two weeks till I felt semi-normal again and six weeks was my full recovery time.

What about now? It’s been a little over a year since my surgery. Let’s talk about my periods. Since I got the ablation at the same time I still hormonally have my period but bleeding is almost nonexistent which has been so amazing. My body also went through a few changes since it was the first time in 10 years I had stopped using birth control in some form or another. I did notice a bit of a change in my anxiety and depression in a good way. Overall I have noticed more energy and am less moody when it is my period time. I am so thankful I got my surgery and so happy to finally have my choice respected.

If you are looking to get sterilized I know it can be tough, especially in our current society. Linked here is a list of gynecologists’ who may be able to help you. Hopefully, your process will be a lot shorter and easier than mine. Regardless of that I am so happy that I did fight to get my choice. Having my tubal makes me so happy and I haven’t regretted it for a second. To all those who said I’d change my mind, no I won’t. Until next time, stay healthy, stay positive, and don’t be an asshole.

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Throughout the years I have struggled to love my body. Am I much better at this now? Hell yes! Are there days that are still a struggle? 100% However, the biggest difference is that I choose to unapologetically and unconditionally love myself regardless. It's easy to nit-pick yourself and want to tear yourself down. But I want to ask you what that will do. Will it help you feel better? Make your day? Probably not. Showing yourself grace and compassion might though. What I am asking you to do is not easy but it can be so worth it! I know because I've done it. I used to tear myself apart to the point I avoided mirrors because all I'd do is criticize myself. You deserve to enjoy the body you're in! 💕Meg * * * #lovethelifeyoulive #lovethebodyyourein #bodypositivity #bodypositive #bodyneutrality #bodyneutral #bodyacceptance #selflove #selflovejourney #selfpleasure #selfembodiment #selfempowerment

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Hey Adventure's I'm back! You may have notices that I took a bit of break from social media. This was in part to being graceful to myself through this new reality as well as it was my birthday. I am excited to be back and bringing you more content! So here's your reminder to be gentle with yourself and each other threw this. * * * #roevwade #OurBodyOurChoice #keepyourpeace #keepyourlawsofmybody #socialmediabreak

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What people say about me behind my back is none of my concern. I've learned to distance myself from people who don't improve my quality of life in in way or another. Has it been hard? Absolutely. Is it worth it? 100% * * * #goodpeople #surroundyourselfwithpositivity #surroundyourselfwithgoodpeople #surroundyourselfwithpositivepeople #selfloveisradical #goodlighting #changeyourmindset #changeyoursurroundings

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